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Proven methods to build stronger, lasting connections. đź“ť 50+ yrs of research đź’•Founded by Drs. John & Julie Gottman
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Our research backs this up Stress is inevitable. A supportive partner changes how heavy it feels. đź’™ When couples build friendship, turn toward each other, and show up as a team, marriage becomes a source of strength, not another stressor. Life stays hard. Connection makes it easier to handle. Crediting: @giveittomestraightpodcast @jon.bouff @alexandramadisonn đź’™
When it comes to marriage, and when people say marriage is hard, I feel like marriage is not hard, life is hard. And so when you're navigating the hard things of life with the wrong person, it might feel like marriage is hard. But marriage is the fun part. Like you're going through life with your bestie. Besties.
Bird fact of the day: It is not actually about the bird. It is about the person who listens to your random “I saw a blue jay” story like it matters. Someone who asks questions, leans in, and treats your tiny moment like a big one. When we respond to those little bids for attention, connection grows. When we ignore them, it slowly fades. So yes, hype up their bird story. Listen like it is breaking news. Tiny moments are where love actually lives. Creators @mayaandhunter
I forgot to tell you that I saw a bird earlier today. What kind of bird? It was like a blue jay. Oh yeah, I saw a blue jay the other day too. No, literally I saw one on my run. It was like, I was amazed because it had like, did it have like the mohawk thing? Yeah. Cause like I haven't seen those like in like ever, only in books.
Sexual desire isn’t constant, and that’s completely normal. Julie Gottman reacts to a video that beautifully reminds us that a healthy sex life doesn’t mean constant sex. It means staying emotionally connected even when your physical intimacy ebbs and flows. When life feels stressful or busy, your body might not be in sync with desire, and that’s okay. What matters most is how you continue to show love, communicate, and stay close through it all. 💬 How do you and your partner stay connected during stressful times?
There are weeks now where I have sex once. There are weeks where I don't have sex at all. And then there are weeks that I have sex three to four to five times a week. It literally just depends on what is going on in my life. And during really stressful periods of work for me, having an orgasm is an
Want to be a better lover? Start by asking: “Do you feel loved by me?” “What makes you feel truly cared for?” Dr. Gottman says it’s all about knowing your partner’s inner world, what love means to them. That’s how you build a Love Map 🗺️💞 Tag someone who needs this reminder & save this to come back to later!
To be a really good lover, you have to know what love means to the person you're trying to love, right? You got to see things from their perspective, not just your own perspective. So humble yourself. Think to yourself, you know, I don't
One of the greatest gifts we can give a child is to let them know we’re truly happy to see them. Not just tolerated. Not managed. But delighted by their presence. Dr. Gottman reminds us that when we do this, we’re doing enormous good for that child’s emotional development. We’re showing them that they matter, not just when they behave or achieve something, but simply because they’re here. Even in the chaos, even in their creative mess, they deserve to feel seen. Let’s be the adults who light up when they walk into the room. Comment "FDVIDEO" to watch the full video.
Our research backs this up Stress is inevitable. A supportive partner changes how heavy it feels. đź’™ When couples build friendship, turn toward each other, and show up as a team, marriage becomes a source of strength, not another stressor. Life stays hard. Connection makes it easier to handle. Crediting: @giveittomestraightpodcast @jon.bouff @alexandramadisonn đź’™
When it comes to marriage, and when people say marriage is hard, I feel like marriage is not hard, life is hard. And so when you're navigating the hard things of life with the wrong person, it might feel like marriage is hard. But marriage is the fun part. Like you're going through life with your bestie. Besties.
Bird fact of the day: It is not actually about the bird. It is about the person who listens to your random “I saw a blue jay” story like it matters. Someone who asks questions, leans in, and treats your tiny moment like a big one. When we respond to those little bids for attention, connection grows. When we ignore them, it slowly fades. So yes, hype up their bird story. Listen like it is breaking news. Tiny moments are where love actually lives. Creators @mayaandhunter
I forgot to tell you that I saw a bird earlier today. What kind of bird? It was like a blue jay. Oh yeah, I saw a blue jay the other day too. No, literally I saw one on my run. It was like, I was amazed because it had like, did it have like the mohawk thing? Yeah. Cause like I haven't seen those like in like ever, only in books.
Sexual desire isn’t constant, and that’s completely normal. Julie Gottman reacts to a video that beautifully reminds us that a healthy sex life doesn’t mean constant sex. It means staying emotionally connected even when your physical intimacy ebbs and flows. When life feels stressful or busy, your body might not be in sync with desire, and that’s okay. What matters most is how you continue to show love, communicate, and stay close through it all. 💬 How do you and your partner stay connected during stressful times?
There are weeks now where I have sex once. There are weeks where I don't have sex at all. And then there are weeks that I have sex three to four to five times a week. It literally just depends on what is going on in my life. And during really stressful periods of work for me, having an orgasm is an
Want to be a better lover? Start by asking: “Do you feel loved by me?” “What makes you feel truly cared for?” Dr. Gottman says it’s all about knowing your partner’s inner world, what love means to them. That’s how you build a Love Map 🗺️💞 Tag someone who needs this reminder & save this to come back to later!
To be a really good lover, you have to know what love means to the person you're trying to love, right? You got to see things from their perspective, not just your own perspective. So humble yourself. Think to yourself, you know, I don't
One of the greatest gifts we can give a child is to let them know we’re truly happy to see them. Not just tolerated. Not managed. But delighted by their presence. Dr. Gottman reminds us that when we do this, we’re doing enormous good for that child’s emotional development. We’re showing them that they matter, not just when they behave or achieve something, but simply because they’re here. Even in the chaos, even in their creative mess, they deserve to feel seen. Let’s be the adults who light up when they walk into the room. Comment "FDVIDEO" to watch the full video.
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